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If you're a man then chances are you have asked a woman at least once what can you do to cause those earth moving, mind blowing, breath taking, rock her world and make her beg orgasms. The answer is PPT - projection, patience and time.
Projection: As a man when you have to take matters in hand you know what feels good. That long slow stroking that gets you hard and then quickening the pace until you get there. Women see that in videos and DVDs and they learn the technique. Now imagine how a woman who has to take much smaller matters in hand gets to that point. I'm not talking about toys, I'm talking about hand inspired gentle rubbing. Those scenes are few and far between with women doing themselves unless you watch bi movies. For women who are orgasmic, the orgasms are always vaginal in the sense that the physical release takes place there but the intensity and the actual ability to achieve orgasms varies greatly between penis/vaginal contact and direct clitoral stimulation. Just like there are inept cocksuckers, there are inept clitsuckers. Some men miss the boat entirely. All is not lost, however. Project - imagine the tip of your cock as her clit. You want sucking, actually suckling is a better term, not chewing. You want to be loved, not attacked. You want your cock to slide gently but firmly in and out of her mouth. Your partner wants the same thing.
Patience: Clitoral tissue is dense and protected by a hood and the labia. Some are just small pieces of tissue hiding and others are lush and plump and peek out from their hoods. If you are going the oral route, slide between her thighs and gently slide the lips apart. If her clitoris is small you will have to coax it out with fluttering tonguing. You can suck it inside the hood and then gently push it back and make gentle (key word) direct sucking contact. If she is a little meatier, flick your tongue over the part that sticks out and then gently suck it by sliding it in and out of your mouth. In either case it will take longer than a minute, longer than five minutes and maybe longer than ten minutes to develop just the right pressure/suck/lick rhythm.
If you are going the digital route, apply a dab of warming gel to your forefinger and have her pull her lips and clitoral hood back for you . Using gentle light circular motions rub the very tip of her clit. Make sure your finger is always well lubed. If you are already hard it probably isn't a good idea to have her reciprocate but deep kissing is a must. You can gently increase the pressure and use flicking motions in combination with light rubbing.
Time: Time, time, time. No matter whether doing the digital stimulation or oral stimulation men seem to often grow weary and leave the scene too early and their partners hanging. Clitorally induced orgasms require time. When she says "don't stop, don't stop", she means it. The reward for staying the course will be the beginning of that earth moving, mind blowing, breathtaking, rock her world and make her beg event. If you want to make her cum this way just continue the rhythm. Don't think a hard clit is an indication of an impending super O because often times it is just the beginning. Once her clit is hard, you can suck a little tighter with more butterfly-like tonguing. If you know her well and know where her G-spot lies, inserting two fingers and massaging it as you continue to gently suck her clit will further engorge the tissues. Sometimes you can feel light throbbing of the hood tissue and her clit. Whatever you do don't stop because the penalty of early withdrawal is the same as if you were in the throws of an orgasm and your partner suddenly stopped sucking your cock. If she cums this way she is primed and more than ready for your big entrance.
So there you have it so now have it. Practice makes perfect and PPT will make your technique perfect.
© 2007 The Lady Marsha
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